Are You a Contentious Wife?

I’m not writing this to say a fight between a couple is always the wife’s fault and I’m not writing this to say the wife is the only one that can be contentious. I’m writing this because it’s something I’ve struggled with and something I hope wives with be encouraged by.

I used to be known as the one who could argue with a sign post and when I got married, that didn’t change. I had to argue or spat about everything Miles said or done. Have you ever been there? Even though you have a good husband, you still want everything your way and you’re going to argue and fight until you get it your way? Yup, that was me! After I rededicated my life to Christ, God began to deal with my heart about the way I always argued with everything Miles said or done and how I wanted everything my way. Proverbs 25:24 came to my heart when God began to deal with me about the way I was toward Miles. I remember asking Miles if he felt like living on the roof and he was very honest and said he would rather live on the roof at times. Wow! That hit me like a ton of bricks! I was so contentious at times, that my husband would have rather lived on the roof. I couldn’t believe I was treating my wonderful husband this way! Miles is so good to me and I was being a horrible wife to such a good husband.

If you are a contentious wife, God can and will help you! First, ask God for forgiveness and then go to your husband and ask his forgiveness. Begin to pray for your husband and give him the respect he deserves and you will be surprised what a difference that will make in your marriage. Some of you are thinking, “well my husband doesn’t respect me or treat me like he needs too.” Here is my advice, (I’ll have another post about this soon) start showing him some respect and stop arguing and fighting with him all the time. Now don’t let your husband run over you and treat you like a dog, but do respect him. One more thing to do for your husband is pray for him! Every time you want to fight with your husband, pray for him. God can use you to be a Godly example to your husband. You are his wife, his best friend, and his helper. Start acting like it.